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Dr Marianne Trent (audio); Navigating the World of Therapy: Insights from Dr. Marianne Trent

summaryIn this conversation, Dr. Marianne Trent, a clinical psychologist, discusses her journey in the field of psychology, the importance of finding qualified therapists, and the risks associated with unregulated therapy practices. She emphasizes the need for professional regulation in psychology to ensure patient safety and the significance of extensive training and experience in becoming a competent therapist. The discussion also touches on the challenges of podcasting and the commitment required to produce quality content.  Marianne discusses the journey to becoming a practitioner psychologist, the differences between various mental health professionals, and the importance of understanding regulatory bodies. She emphasizes the need for aspiring psychologists to ask the right questions when seeking therapy and highlights the significance of neurodiversity in mental health. Additionally, she shares insights from her podcast, 'The Aspiring Psychologist,' and offers advice for those pursuing a career in psychology, stressing the importance of self-care and not rushing the process.
https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/
takeaways
Dr. Marianne Trent is a clinical psychologist with extensive experience.
Finding the right therapist is crucial for mental health.
Unregulated therapists can pose significant risks to clients.
Professional regulation is essential for ensuring safe therapy practices.
A psychology degree alone does not prepare one for clinical practice.
Experience and training are vital in the field of psychology.
The podcasting process involves careful editing and planning.
Mental health awareness is critical in today's society.
Therapists should be questioned about their qualifications.
Continuous professional development is important for psychologists. The journey to becoming a psychologist involves rigorous assessments and support from supervisors.
Understanding the differences between psychiatrists, psychologists, and psychotherapists is crucial for therapy seekers.
Clients should feel empowered to ask questions about their therapists' qualifications and experiences.
Regulatory bodies like the HCPC ensure the standards of practice for psychologists in the UK.
The podcast aims to support aspiring psychologists by sharing experiences and insights from qualified professionals.
Neurodiversity in mental health can enhance the therapeutic process and improve client engagement.
Self-care and personal well-being are essential for those in the mental health field.
It's important to recognize that career paths in psychology can vary greatly and are not a race.
The podcast features discussions on various mental health topics, including complex trauma and parenting.
Ethical considerations in unpaid positions in psychology highlight the need for fair practices.

Dr Marianne Trent (video); Navigating the World of Therapy: Insights from Dr. Marianne Trent

summaryIn this conversation, Dr. Marianne Trent, a clinical psychologist, discusses her journey in the field of psychology, the importance of finding qualified therapists, and the risks associated with unregulated therapy practices. She emphasizes the need for professional regulation in psychology to ensure patient safety and the significance of extensive training and experience in becoming a competent therapist. The discussion also touches on the challenges of podcasting and the commitment required to produce quality content.  Marianne discusses the journey to becoming a practitioner psychologist, the differences between various mental health professionals, and the importance of understanding regulatory bodies. She emphasizes the need for aspiring psychologists to ask the right questions when seeking therapy and highlights the significance of neurodiversity in mental health. Additionally, she shares insights from her podcast, 'The Aspiring Psychologist,' and offers advice for those pursuing a career in psychology, stressing the importance of self-care and not rushing the process.
https://www.goodthinkingpsychology.co.uk/
takeaways
Dr. Marianne Trent is a clinical psychologist with extensive experience.
Finding the right therapist is crucial for mental health.
Unregulated therapists can pose significant risks to clients.
Professional regulation is essential for ensuring safe therapy practices.
A psychology degree alone does not prepare one for clinical practice.
Experience and training are vital in the field of psychology.
The podcasting process involves careful editing and planning.
Mental health awareness is critical in today's society.
Therapists should be questioned about their qualifications.
Continuous professional development is important for psychologists. The journey to becoming a psychologist involves rigorous assessments and support from supervisors.
Understanding the differences between psychiatrists, psychologists, and psychotherapists is crucial for therapy seekers.
Clients should feel empowered to ask questions about their therapists' qualifications and experiences.
Regulatory bodies like the HCPC ensure the standards of practice for psychologists in the UK.
The podcast aims to support aspiring psychologists by sharing experiences and insights from qualified professionals.
Neurodiversity in mental health can enhance the therapeutic process and improve client engagement.
Self-care and personal well-being are essential for those in the mental health field.
It's important to recognize that career paths in psychology can vary greatly and are not a race.
The podcast features discussions on various mental health topics, including complex trauma and parenting.
Ethical considerations in unpaid positions in psychology highlight the need for fair practices.

Dr Bernadette Dancy (video) Health Coach Navigating Panic: The Stress Response Explained

Bernadette is a coach and speaker specializing in stress management. She started her career as a University Lecturer in 2001 teaching Health and Exercise science for 15 years before experiencing burnout and then setting about learning as much as she could about stress in an attempt to not only recover herself but also to help others suffering the same fate.
In 2017 she retrained as a health coach specializing in stress management which she continues to do as well as delivering keynote talks on the topic of stress for corporate organizations, elite sports organizations as well as charities.
Through her work, she has recognized that whilst stress and burnout are complex conditions that significantly impact health and performance, providing education and a better understanding of stress empowers people to make important changes that help them recover and overcome it. And so, Stress Ed.® was created.
http://www.stress-ed.co.uk/
 
keywordsstress, panic, health coaching, psychology, workplace stress, emotional response, evolutionary psychology, coping mechanisms, mental health, resilience, stress, burnout, workplace responsibility, mental health, recovery, neuro divergence, good stress, chronic stress, research, health psychology
summaryIn this conversation, Bernadette Dancy, a health coach with a PhD in stress psychology, discusses the complexities of stress, its definitions, symptoms, and the physiological responses it triggers. She explores the relationship between stress and panic, individual differences in stress responses, and the evolutionary significance of stress. The conversation also delves into the current challenges of workplace stress, highlighting the increasing demands on employees and the impact of communication on stress management. In this conversation, Bernadette discusses the complex interplay between workplace responsibilities and individual accountability in managing stress and burnout. She emphasizes the importance of understanding stress as a nuanced experience that can manifest differently in individuals, particularly those with neurodivergent conditions. Bernadette also highlights the need for recovery and self-awareness in combating chronic stress, while advocating for more research on the effects of stress across different demographics, including gender and neurodivergence.
takeaways
Stress is often misunderstood and stigmatized.
Panic can be a helpful response to perceived threats.
Cortisol plays a crucial role in our stress response.
Individual experiences shape how we perceive and respond to stress.
Stress is essential for survival and evolution.
Effective communication can mitigate stress in high-pressure situations.
The workplace has evolved, increasing stress levels for many.
Many people feel overwhelmed by workplace demands.
Understanding stress can lead to better coping strategies.
Resilience can be developed through challenging experiences. Workplaces have a significant responsibility for employee well-being.
Individuals also need to take responsibility for their mental health.
Burnout was not officially recognized until 2019 by the WHO.
Stress can manifest in various ways before leading to burnout.
There is a distinction between good stress and bad stress.
Recovery is essential for managing stress effectively.
Basic needs like sleep and nutrition are crucial for stress management.
Gender differences in stress responses need more research.
Neurodivergent individuals may experience stress differently and more intensely.
More research is needed on the intersection of stress and hormonal changes in women.

Dr Bernadette Dancy (audio) Health Coach Navigating Panic: The Stress Response Explained

Bernadette is a coach and speaker specializing in stress management. She started her career as a University Lecturer in 2001 teaching Health and Exercise science for 15 years before experiencing burnout and then setting about learning as much as she could about stress in an attempt to not only recover herself but also to help others suffering the same fate.
In 2017 she retrained as a health coach specializing in stress management which she continues to do as well as delivering keynote talks on the topic of stress for corporate organizations, elite sports organizations as well as charities.
Through her work, she has recognized that whilst stress and burnout are complex conditions that significantly impact health and performance, providing education and a better understanding of stress empowers people to make important changes that help them recover and overcome it. And so, Stress Ed.® was created.
http://www.stress-ed.co.uk/
 
keywordsstress, panic, health coaching, psychology, workplace stress, emotional response, evolutionary psychology, coping mechanisms, mental health, resilience, stress, burnout, workplace responsibility, mental health, recovery, neuro divergence, good stress, chronic stress, research, health psychology
summaryIn this conversation, Bernadette Dancy, a health coach with a PhD in stress psychology, discusses the complexities of stress, its definitions, symptoms, and the physiological responses it triggers. She explores the relationship between stress and panic, individual differences in stress responses, and the evolutionary significance of stress. The conversation also delves into the current challenges of workplace stress, highlighting the increasing demands on employees and the impact of communication on stress management. In this conversation, Bernadette discusses the complex interplay between workplace responsibilities and individual accountability in managing stress and burnout. She emphasizes the importance of understanding stress as a nuanced experience that can manifest differently in individuals, particularly those with neurodivergent conditions. Bernadette also highlights the need for recovery and self-awareness in combating chronic stress, while advocating for more research on the effects of stress across different demographics, including gender and neurodivergence.
takeaways
Stress is often misunderstood and stigmatized.
Panic can be a helpful response to perceived threats.
Cortisol plays a crucial role in our stress response.
Individual experiences shape how we perceive and respond to stress.
Stress is essential for survival and evolution.
Effective communication can mitigate stress in high-pressure situations.
The workplace has evolved, increasing stress levels for many.
Many people feel overwhelmed by workplace demands.
Understanding stress can lead to better coping strategies.
Resilience can be developed through challenging experiences. Workplaces have a significant responsibility for employee well-being.
Individuals also need to take responsibility for their mental health.
Burnout was not officially recognized until 2019 by the WHO.
Stress can manifest in various ways before leading to burnout.
There is a distinction between good stress and bad stress.
Recovery is essential for managing stress effectively.
Basic needs like sleep and nutrition are crucial for stress management.
Gender differences in stress responses need more research.
Neurodivergent individuals may experience stress differently and more intensely.
More research is needed on the intersection of stress and hormonal changes in women.

Peter Gill (video) Focusing, listening to the wisdom of your body.

Peter Gill is one of the UK’s foremost Focusing Teachers, and has beenteaching Focusing for over 20 years. Prior to this, he spent a decade practisingand teaching meditation. Also trained in trauma healing, grief work and natureconnection. Peter brings an embodied, accessible and honest approach to hiswritings and teaching. He published his first book “The Way of Curiosity” in2024. Peter is qualified with the International Focusing Institute and the British Focusing Association.
https://focusing.org/
https://www.focusing.org.uk/
See Peter's book here https://www.livingfocusing.co.uk/curiosity.php
keywords
Focusing, meditation, therapy, emotional healing, Eugene Gendlin, mindfulness, interoception, self-awareness, personal growth, Focusing, personal development, therapeutic techniques, mindfulness, emotional awareness, peer support, mental health, trauma, listening skills, body awareness
summary
In this conversation, Peter Gill, a leading teacher of focusing, discusses the method of focusing, its origins, and its benefits. He explains how focusing differs from meditation by emphasizing the importance of listening to the body and engaging in a dialogue with one's inner experiences. Through personal anecdotes and examples, Peter illustrates the transformative power of focusing in therapy and personal growth, highlighting its ability to foster self-awareness, emotional healing, and decision-making. In this conversation, Peter discusses the concept of focusing, a therapeutic technique that emphasizes personal development and emotional awareness. He explores various methodologies within focusing, the types of individuals who seek this practice, and the challenges of raising awareness about its benefits. The discussion also touches on the transformative power of listening, the adaptability of focusing for different populations, and its potential applications in mental health settings. Gill encourages listeners to engage with focusing as a skill for life, highlighting its egalitarian nature and the importance of peer support.
takeaways
Focusing is about listening to the body.
It involves a dialogue with one's inner experiences.
Focusing can help access deeper emotional truths.
The process can lead to significant personal insights.
Focusing is often practiced in pairs for mutual support.
Eugene Gendlin developed focusing based on therapy research.
Not everyone is ready for focusing at all times.
Focusing can be beneficial for trauma survivors.
It helps individuals navigate their emotional lives.
Focusing fosters self-compassion and reduces inner criticism. Focusing is a living process, not a rigid technique.
People seek focusing to connect with their deeper selves.
Learning focusing takes time and practice.
Focusing can be beneficial for everyday emotional support.
The method is adaptable for various populations, including children.
Listening is a transformative skill developed through focusing.
Focusing has potential applications in mental health settings.
Peer support is a key aspect of the focusing practice.
Focusing can help individuals process grief and anxiety.
There are many resources available for learning focusing.

Peter Gill (audio); Focusing, listening to the wisdom of your body.

Peter Gill is one of the UK’s foremost Focusing Teachers, and has beenteaching Focusing for over 20 years. Prior to this, he spent a decade practisingand teaching meditation. Also trained in trauma healing, grief work and natureconnection. Peter brings an embodied, accessible and honest approach to hiswritings and teaching. He published his first book “The Way of Curiosity” in2024. Peter is qualified with the International Focusing Institute and the British Focusing Association.
https://focusing.org/
https://www.focusing.org.uk/
See Peter's book here https://www.livingfocusing.co.uk/curiosity.php
keywords
Focusing, meditation, therapy, emotional healing, Eugene Gendlin, mindfulness, interoception, self-awareness, personal growth, Focusing, personal development, therapeutic techniques, mindfulness, emotional awareness, peer support, mental health, trauma, listening skills, body awareness
summary
In this conversation, Peter Gill, a leading teacher of focusing, discusses the method of focusing, its origins, and its benefits. He explains how focusing differs from meditation by emphasizing the importance of listening to the body and engaging in a dialogue with one's inner experiences. Through personal anecdotes and examples, Peter illustrates the transformative power of focusing in therapy and personal growth, highlighting its ability to foster self-awareness, emotional healing, and decision-making. In this conversation, Peter discusses the concept of focusing, a therapeutic technique that emphasizes personal development and emotional awareness. He explores various methodologies within focusing, the types of individuals who seek this practice, and the challenges of raising awareness about its benefits. The discussion also touches on the transformative power of listening, the adaptability of focusing for different populations, and its potential applications in mental health settings. Gill encourages listeners to engage with focusing as a skill for life, highlighting its egalitarian nature and the importance of peer support.
takeaways
Focusing is about listening to the body.
It involves a dialogue with one's inner experiences.
Focusing can help access deeper emotional truths.
The process can lead to significant personal insights.
Focusing is often practiced in pairs for mutual support.
Eugene Gendlin developed focusing based on therapy research.
Not everyone is ready for focusing at all times.
Focusing can be beneficial for trauma survivors.
It helps individuals navigate their emotional lives.
Focusing fosters self-compassion and reduces inner criticism. Focusing is a living process, not a rigid technique.
People seek focusing to connect with their deeper selves.
Learning focusing takes time and practice.
Focusing can be beneficial for everyday emotional support.
The method is adaptable for various populations, including children.
Listening is a transformative skill developed through focusing.
Focusing has potential applications in mental health settings.
Peer support is a key aspect of the focusing practice.
Focusing can help individuals process grief and anxiety.
There are many resources available for learning focusing.

Anna Hutchinson (Audio); The challenges of gender identity services

keywords
clinical psychology, adolescent mental health, gender identity, Tavistock Clinic, diagnostic overshadowing, cognitive dissonance, ethical dilemmas, systemic failures, professional accountability, critical thinking, evidence-based medicine, mental health, physical health, clinical psychology, body-mind connection, multidisciplinary teams, stigma, parenthood, private practice, coping strategies
summary
In this conversation, clinical psychologist Anna Hutchinson discusses her extensive experience in adolescent mental health, particularly her time at the Tavistock Clinic's Gender Identity Disorder Service. She reflects on the challenges of diagnostic overshadowing, the cognitive dissonance she experienced while working in a rigid diagnostic framework, and the ethical dilemmas faced by professionals in the field. Anna emphasizes the systemic failures within the service and the need for critical thinking and accountability in psychology to better serve young people. In this conversation, Anna discusses the challenges and complexities of working in clinical psychology, particularly in relation to evidence-based medicine, the interplay between physical and emotional health, and the importance of understanding the body-mind connection. She reflects on her experiences in multidisciplinary teams, the evolution of mental health stigma, and how becoming a parent has influenced her professional perspective. Anna also shares her transition from the NHS to private practice and the coping strategies she has employed throughout her career.
Bio
Dr. Anna Hutchinson is a clinical psychologist with a focus on adolescent mental health, physical health and embodied distress. She was a senior psychologist at the Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS) at the Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation Trust between 2013 and 2017. During her time there, she raised significant concerns about the clinical practices, particularly regarding the rapid medical interventions for young people with gender identity issues. Her insights were part of the narrative in the book "Time to Think: The Inside Story of the Collapse of the Tavistock’s Gender Service for Children" by Hannah Barnes.  (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/62814704-time-to-think)

Dr Anna Hutchinson (Video); The Challenges of Gender Identity Services

keywords
clinical psychology, adolescent mental health, gender identity, Tavistock Clinic, diagnostic overshadowing, cognitive dissonance, ethical dilemmas, systemic failures, professional accountability, critical thinking, evidence-based medicine, mental health, physical health, clinical psychology, body-mind connection, multidisciplinary teams, stigma, parenthood, private practice, coping strategies
summary
In this conversation, clinical psychologist Anna Hutchinson discusses her extensive experience in adolescent mental health, particularly her time at the Tavistock Clinic's Gender Identity Disorder Service. She reflects on the challenges of diagnostic overshadowing, the cognitive dissonance she experienced while working in a rigid diagnostic framework, and the ethical dilemmas faced by professionals in the field. Anna emphasizes the systemic failures within the service and the need for critical thinking and accountability in psychology to better serve young people. In this conversation, Anna discusses the challenges and complexities of working in clinical psychology, particularly in relation to evidence-based medicine, the interplay between physical and emotional health, and the importance of understanding the body-mind connection. She reflects on her experiences in multidisciplinary teams, the evolution of mental health stigma, and how becoming a parent has influenced her professional perspective. Anna also shares her transition from the NHS to private practice and the coping strategies she has employed throughout her career.
Bio
Dr. Anna Hutchinson is a clinical psychologist with a focus on adolescent mental health, physical health and embodied distress. She was a senior psychologist at the Gender Identity Development Service (GIDS) at the Tavistock and Portman NHS Foundation Trust between 2013 and 2017. During her time there, she raised significant concerns about the clinical practices, particularly regarding the rapid medical interventions for young people with gender identity issues. Her insights were part of the narrative in the book "Time to Think: The Inside Story of the Collapse of the Tavistock’s Gender Service for Children" by Hannah Barnes.  (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/62814704-time-to-think)

Jacob Hill (video) Breaking Barriers: How Offploy fosters Employment for Ex-Offenders

keywords
Offploy, ex-offenders, employment opportunities, peer mentoring, social entrepreneurship, stigma, rehabilitation, community support, inclusivity
summary
In this conversation, Jacob Hill, founder of Offploy, shares his journey from being a prisoner to creating a peer mentoring organization that supports socially excluded individuals, particularly those with criminal convictions. He discusses the challenges faced by ex-offenders in securing employment, the stigma surrounding their past, and the importance of community support. Jacob emphasizes the need for employers to be more inclusive and understanding, and he reflects on his own experiences with prejudice and the emotional toll of advocacy work. The conversation highlights the societal impact of providing employment opportunities to those who have been incarcerated and the transformative power of second chances.
takeaways
Offploy supports socially excluded individuals to achieve their goals.
Jacob's journey from prison changed his perception of ex-offenders.
The fear of prison can be more daunting than the experience itself.
Starting Offploy was a way to repay his debt to society.
Reputational risk is a major barrier for employers hiring ex-offenders.
Employment opportunities can significantly reduce reoffending rates.
Employers should focus on the individual rather than their past convictions.
Community support is crucial for the reintegration of ex-offenders.
Inclusivity in hiring practices benefits both employers and society
Self-care and resilience are essential in advocacy work.
https://www.offploy.org/

Jacob Hill (audio) Breaking Barriers: How Offploy fosters Employment for Ex-Offenders

keywords
Offploy, ex-offenders, employment opportunities, peer mentoring, social entrepreneurship, stigma, rehabilitation, community support, inclusivity
summary
In this conversation, Jacob Hill, founder of Offploy, shares his journey from being a prisoner to creating a peer mentoring organization that supports socially excluded individuals, particularly those with criminal convictions. He discusses the challenges faced by ex-offenders in securing employment, the stigma surrounding their past, and the importance of community support. Jacob emphasizes the need for employers to be more inclusive and understanding, and he reflects on his own experiences with prejudice and the emotional toll of advocacy work. The conversation highlights the societal impact of providing employment opportunities to those who have been incarcerated and the transformative power of second chances.
takeaways
Offploy supports socially excluded individuals to achieve their goals.
Jacob's journey from prison changed his perception of ex-offenders.
The fear of prison can be more daunting than the experience itself.
Starting Offploy was a way to repay his debt to society.
Reputational risk is a major barrier for employers hiring ex-offenders.
Employment opportunities can significantly reduce reoffending rates.
Employers should focus on the individual rather than their past convictions.
Community support is crucial for the reintegration of ex-offenders.
Inclusivity in hiring practices benefits both employers and society
Self-care and resilience are essential in advocacy work.
https://www.offploy.org/

Zelda Perkins; (video) The Legal Battle Against Harvey Weinstein and NDAs

Zelda Perkins was the first woman to break an NDA in 2017, signed decades earlier, with Harvey Weinstein. She brought the systematic abuse of NDA’s to the attention of the British Government and international press, giving evidence at two parliamentary inquiries, which uncovered an epidemic of misuse, and pushed the Solicitors Regulatory Authority to take disciplinary action against the lawyer who created the NDA for Weinstein. Her actions have been inspiring others to come forward by her example. She has been campaigning for legislative and regulatory reform in the UK since 2017 and launched the Global campaign Can’t Buy My Silence cantbuymysilence.com with Canadian Co Founder, Professor Julie Macfarlane in September 2021. They are working with Government in the UK, the Republic of Ireland, Canada and Australia to change legislation and regulation around the misuse of NDA’s. They have had legislative success in the UK, Ireland and Canada with the first laws of their kind banning NDAs being passed in all three countries, however there is still a long way to go. Zelda was named a Person of the Year by Time magazine in 2018,  by the Guardian in 2020 and in 2023 awarded for her Outstanding Contribution to Gender Equality by UN Women UK. Her character was portrayed by Samantha Morton in the Universal Pictures feature “She Said” documenting her part in the downfall of Weinstein.
 
keywords
Zelda Perkins, Harvey Weinstein, NDAs, workplace harassment, power dynamics, legal challenges, justice, settlements, advocacy, gender equality, cultural change, power dynamics, non-disclosure agreements, emotional toll, moral injury, advocacy, self-care, trauma, accountability, legislation
summary
In this conversation David and Naomi speak with Zelda Perkins, a prominent figure in the fight against the misuse of non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) following her experience with Harvey Weinstein. Zelda shares her journey from working at Miramax Films to co-founding the organization Can't Buy My Silence, highlighting the systemic issues of power dynamics, the challenges of seeking justice, and the emotional toll of legal negotiations. The conversation delves into the broader implications of these issues in various workplaces and the ongoing advocacy for legislative change to protect victims. In this conversation they discuss the cultural changes needed to address power dynamics, particularly in relation to non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) and their emotional toll on individuals. They emphasize the importance of accountability and the need for a shift in societal attitudes towards power and abuse. The discussion also highlights the concept of moral injury, the challenges faced by those under NDAs, and the ongoing campaign to reform the use of these agreements.
takeaways
Zelda Perkins broke her NDA with Harvey Weinstein, sparking a movement against NDA misuse.
The legal system often fails victims of harassment and abuse.
Power dynamics in the workplace can lead to exploitation, especially for women.
Money in settlements can complicate the pursuit of justice.
The emotional toll of legal negotiations can be profound and disorienting.
Victims often feel responsible for the actions of their abusers.
The culture of silence around abuse needs to be challenged.
Advocacy for legislative change is crucial to protect victims.
The experience of being treated as 'girls' highlights the gender dynamics in legal settings.
Zelda's journey emphasizes the importance of resilience and personal growth in the face of adversity. Cultural change is essential to address power dynamics.
The law must evolve to protect individuals from abuse.
NDAs can serve legitimate purposes but are often misused.
The emotional toll of NDAs can be profound and lasting.
Moral injury is a significant consequence of being silenced.
Fear of legal repercussions can prevent individuals from speaking out.
Truth is a powerful tool against oppression.
Victims should have control over confidentiality agreements.
Advocacy requires self-care and boundaries.
Public awareness is crucial for cultural change.

Zelda Perkins; (audio) The Legal Battle Against Harvey Weinstein and NDAs

Co - Founder Can’t Buy My SIlence
 
Zelda Perkins was the first woman to break an NDA in 2017, signed decades earlier, with Harvey Weinstein. She brought the systematic abuse of NDA’s to the attention of the British Government and international press, giving evidence at two parliamentary inquiries, which uncovered an epidemic of misuse, and pushed the Solicitors Regulatory Authority to take disciplinary action against the lawyer who created the NDA for Weinstein. Her actions have been inspiring others to come forward by her example. She has been campaigning for legislative and regulatory reform in the UK since 2017 and launched the Global campaign Can’t Buy My Silence cantbuymysilence.com with Canadian Co Founder, Professor Julie Macfarlane in September 2021. They are working with Government in the UK, the Republic of Ireland, Canada and Australia to change legislation and regulation around the misuse of NDA’s. They have had legislative success in the UK, Ireland and Canada with the first laws of their kind banning NDAs being passed in all three countries, however there is still a long way to go. Zelda was named a Person of the Year by Time magazine in 2018,  by the Guardian in 2020 and in 2023 awarded for her Outstanding Contribution to Gender Equality by UN Women UK. Her character was portrayed by Samantha Morton in the Universal Pictures feature “She Said” documenting her part in the downfall of Weinstein.
 
keywords
Zelda Perkins, Harvey Weinstein, NDAs, workplace harassment, power dynamics, legal challenges, justice, settlements, advocacy, gender equality, cultural change, power dynamics, non-disclosure agreements, emotional toll, moral injury, advocacy, self-care, trauma, accountability, legislation
summary
In this conversation David and Naomi speak with Zelda Perkins, a prominent figure in the fight against the misuse of non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) following her experience with Harvey Weinstein. Zelda shares her journey from working at Miramax Films to co-founding the organization Can't Buy My Silence, highlighting the systemic issues of power dynamics, the challenges of seeking justice, and the emotional toll of legal negotiations. The conversation delves into the broader implications of these issues in various workplaces and the ongoing advocacy for legislative change to protect victims. In this conversation they discuss the cultural changes needed to address power dynamics, particularly in relation to non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) and their emotional toll on individuals. They emphasize the importance of accountability and the need for a shift in societal attitudes towards power and abuse. The discussion also highlights the concept of moral injury, the challenges faced by those under NDAs, and the ongoing campaign to reform the use of these agreements.
takeaways
Zelda Perkins broke her NDA with Harvey Weinstein, sparking a movement against NDA misuse.
The legal system often fails victims of harassment and abuse.
Power dynamics in the workplace can lead to exploitation, especially for women.
Money in settlements can complicate the pursuit of justice.
The emotional toll of legal negotiations can be profound and disorienting.
Victims often feel responsible for the actions of their abusers.
The culture of silence around abuse needs to be challenged.
Advocacy for legislative change is crucial to protect victims.
The experience of being treated as 'girls' highlights the gender dynamics in legal settings.
Zelda's journey emphasizes the importance of resilience and personal growth in the face of adversity. Cultural change is essential to address power dynamics.
The law must evolve to protect individuals from abuse.
NDAs can serve legitimate purposes but are often misused.
The emotional toll of NDAs can be profound and lasting.
Moral injury is a significant consequence of being silenced.
Fear of legal repercussions can prevent individuals from speaking out.
Truth is a powerful tool against oppression.
Victims should have control over confidentiality agreements.
Advocacy requires self-care and boundaries.
Public awareness is crucial for cultural change.

Mark Stibbe (Video) • Understanding Shame and Attachment in Childhood

In this conversation the author, Mark Stibbe shares his profound journey from a challenging early life marked by adoption and separation to his experiences in boarding school, where he faced emotional and physical challenges. He discusses the impact of shame and attachment issues stemming from his childhood, the complexities of relationships, and the vulnerability that led to experiences of abuse. Mark reflects on his disillusionment with organized religion and the transformative power of writing as a therapeutic tool in his healing process. His story is one of resilience, the search for love, and the quest for understanding and forgiveness.
https://www.markstibbe.com/
Chapters
00:00Mark Stibbe's Early Life and Adoption Journey
03:05The Impact of Shame and Attachment Issues
06:17Boarding School Experience and Second Orphaning
08:59The Role of Pets in Childhood Attachment
11:48Resilience and the Absence of Unconditional Love
14:35Vulnerability to Abuse and the Complexity of Relationships
17:33The Effects of Sexual Abuse and Guilt
20:51Navigating the Aftermath of Abuse
23:44The Need for Healing and Understanding
33:40Understanding Guilt and Isolation in Abuse
37:31The Impact of Misbeliefs and Myths on Sexuality
40:42The Role of Family Secrets in Healing
51:06Faith and Spirituality: A Personal Journey
58:08The Hypocrisy of Religious Figures and Abuse
01:02:35The Therapeutic Power of Writing and Storytelling
 

Mark Stibbe (Audio) • Understanding Shame and Attachment in Childhood

In this powerful and poignant conversation, Mark Stibbe shares his profound journey from a challenging early life marked by adoption and separation to his experiences in boarding school, where he faced emotional and physical challenges. He discusses the impact of shame and attachment issues stemming from his childhood, the complexities of relationships, and the vulnerability that led to experiences of abuse. Mark reflects on his disillusionment with organized religion and the transformative power of writing as a therapeutic tool in his healing process. His story is one of resilience, the search for love, and the quest for understanding and forgiveness.
https://www.markstibbe.com/
Chapters
00:00Mark Stibbe's Early Life and Adoption Journey
03:05The Impact of Shame and Attachment Issues
06:17Boarding School Experience and Second Orphaning
08:59The Role of Pets in Childhood Attachment
11:48Resilience and the Absence of Unconditional Love
14:35Vulnerability to Abuse and the Complexity of Relationships
17:33The Effects of Sexual Abuse and Guilt
20:51Navigating the Aftermath of Abuse
23:44The Need for Healing and Understanding
33:40Understanding Guilt and Isolation in Abuse
37:31The Impact of Misbeliefs and Myths on Sexuality
40:42The Role of Family Secrets in Healing
51:06Faith and Spirituality: A Personal Journey
58:08The Hypocrisy of Religious Figures and Abuse
01:02:35The Therapeutic Power of Writing and Storytelling
01:06:37Outro Oct 23 2.mp4

Steve Chalke (video); The incredible development of Oasis with homelessness, education and youth justice.

In this conversation, Steve Chalke discusses the ethos and values of Oasis, (not the pop group) the organization he founded to alleviate poverty and support marginalized communities. He shares his personal journey, the challenges he faced, and the vision behind Oasis, emphasizing the importance of inclusion, understanding, and rehabilitation in society. Chalke highlights innovative approaches to youth justice, particularly through the Oasis Restore project, which aims to provide therapeutic care rather than punishment for young offenders. The discussion also touches on the significance of creating opportunities for young people and the role of accountability and leadership in charitable organizations.
Check out the links below to learn more about their work with youth justice, homelessness, education and much more.
https://www.oasisrestore.org/
https://www.oasisuk.org/
https://www.oasiscommunityhousing.org/
 
Author, speaker, TV and radio presenter, businessman, social entrepreneur, husband and father, Rev Steve Chalke MBE began public life as a Baptist Minister being ordained in 1981. 
In 1985 he founded the Oasis Charitable Trust with a vision to build inclusive communities, where everyone has hope, feels that they matter and is given the opportunity to achieve their God-given potential. Oasis pioneers life-transforming housing, healthcare, education, church, and youth and community initiatives across the UK and the world. 
Oasis works in ‘community hubs’ to provide a range of integrated and high quality services that support people holistically; educationally, physically, socially, spiritually, emotionally, economically and environmentally. 
Steve has inspired numerous key initiatives in Oasis, which retain his involvement, including:
• Oasis College of Higher Education in London, in partnership with Staffordshire University, is committed to equipping and resourcing students with the skills, knowledge and understanding to improve the quality of life for their families and communities;
• Oasis Community Learning, has opened over 40 primary, secondary and all-through schools around the UK, and is committed to education and holistic community regeneration;
• Oasis Church in Waterloo, London, the first of a new network of UK churches which includes others in Bristol, Croydon, Enfield, Grimsby, Salford and Southampton;
• Stop The Traffik, a global coalition working in nearly 100 countries and with tens of thousands of activists around the world campaigning to end people trafficking. Steve was a United Nations Special Adviser for community action against human trafficking;
• People’s Parliament, which creates a place of debate, discussion, interaction and partnership for voluntary organisations with the aim of building more effective relationships between the government and the third sector.
In 2018, Rev Steve Chalke received the Spirit of London Award for the most amount of money raised for charity by an individual at the London Marathon, when he completed the 2011 race. He raised an incredible £2,330,159.38 for the Oasis UK charity.

Steve Chalke (audio) Steve Chalke (video); The incredible development of Oasis with homelessness, education and youth justice

In this conversation, Steve Chalke discusses the ethos and values of Oasis, (not the pop group) the organization he founded to alleviate poverty and support marginalized communities. He shares his personal journey, the challenges he faced, and the vision behind Oasis, emphasizing the importance of inclusion, understanding, and rehabilitation in society. Chalke highlights innovative approaches to youth justice, particularly through the Oasis Restore project, which aims to provide therapeutic care rather than punishment for young offenders. The discussion also touches on the significance of creating opportunities for young people and the role of accountability and leadership in charitable organizations.
Check out the links below to learn more about their work with youth justice, homelessness, education and much more.
https://www.oasisrestore.org/
https://www.oasisuk.org/
https://www.oasiscommunityhousing.org/
 
Author, speaker, TV and radio presenter, businessman, social entrepreneur, husband and father, Rev Steve Chalke MBE began public life as a Baptist Minister being ordained in 1981. 
In 1985 he founded the Oasis Charitable Trust with a vision to build inclusive communities, where everyone has hope, feels that they matter and is given the opportunity to achieve their God-given potential. Oasis pioneers life-transforming housing, healthcare, education, church, and youth and community initiatives across the UK and the world. 
Oasis works in ‘community hubs’ to provide a range of integrated and high quality services that support people holistically; educationally, physically, socially, spiritually, emotionally, economically and environmentally. 
Steve has inspired numerous key initiatives in Oasis, which retain his involvement, including:
• Oasis College of Higher Education in London, in partnership with Staffordshire University, is committed to equipping and resourcing students with the skills, knowledge and understanding to improve the quality of life for their families and communities;
• Oasis Community Learning, has opened over 40 primary, secondary and all-through schools around the UK, and is committed to education and holistic community regeneration;
• Oasis Church in Waterloo, London, the first of a new network of UK churches which includes others in Bristol, Croydon, Enfield, Grimsby, Salford and Southampton;
• Stop The Traffik, a global coalition working in nearly 100 countries and with tens of thousands of activists around the world campaigning to end people trafficking. Steve was a United Nations Special Adviser for community action against human trafficking;
• People’s Parliament, which creates a place of debate, discussion, interaction and partnership for voluntary organisations with the aim of building more effective relationships between the government and the third sector.
In 2018, Rev Steve Chalke received the Spirit of London Award for the most amount of money raised for charity by an individual at the London Marathon, when he completed the 2011 race. He raised an incredible £2,330,159.38 for the Oasis UK charity.

Nora Stern;(video) AI as a Therapeutic Ally: Enhancing the Therapist-Client Relationship

In this enlightening episode, David and Naomi engage in a thought-provoking conversation with Nora Stern, co founder of Affinity AI. They delve into the innovative ways artificial intelligence can enhance therapeutic practices, discussing the potential benefits and challenges of integrating AI into mental health services. Nora shares insights on how AI can assist therapists in managing their workload, improving patient engagement, and providing valuable tools for therapy sessions.
**Key Topics Discussed:**- Nora's background and the mission of Affinity AI- The role of AI in summarizing therapy sessions and creating homework exercises for clients- The importance of therapist involvement in AI interactions- Potential applications of AI in high-need mental health services, such as prisons and secure hospitals- The development of AI models trained by psychologists to deliver therapy in a human-like manner- Addressing the challenges of accessibility in mental health services for underrepresented communities- The unique advantages of human therapists in understanding emotional nuances that AI may struggle to replicate
https://www.affiniti.ai/
nora.stern@affinity.ai

Nora Stern;(audio) AI as a Therapeutic Ally: Enhancing the Therapist-Client Relationship

In this enlightening episode, David and Naomi engage in a thought-provoking conversation with Nora Stern, co founder of Affinity AI. They delve into the innovative ways artificial intelligence can enhance therapeutic practices, discussing the potential benefits and challenges of integrating AI into mental health services. Nora shares insights on how AI can assist therapists in managing their workload, improving patient engagement, and providing valuable tools for therapy sessions.
**Key Topics Discussed:**- Nora's background and the mission of Affinity AI- The role of AI in summarizing therapy sessions and creating homework exercises for clients- The importance of therapist involvement in AI interactions- Potential applications of AI in high-need mental health services, such as prisons and secure hospitals- The development of AI models trained by psychologists to deliver therapy in a human-like manner- Addressing the challenges of accessibility in mental health services for underrepresented communities- The unique advantages of human therapists in understanding emotional nuances that AI may struggle to replicate
https://www.affiniti.ai/
nora.stern@affinity.ai

Judith Edwards; (audio) "Grandmotherland: Exploring the Ties That Bind Generations

In this episode, we sit down with Judith Edwards, an experienced child and adolescent psychotherapist, to discuss her latest book, "Grandmotherland." Judith shares her insights on the profound impact of grandparenting, the complexities of familial relationships, and the importance of subjective experiences in understanding our lives. Join us as we explore the intersections of psychoanalysis, culture, and the unique role of grandmothers in shaping family dynamics.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0075417X.2024.2358905
Grandmotherland: exploring the myths and realities; by Judith Edwards, London, Karnac, 2023, 176 pp., £18.99 (paperback), ISBN 9781913494773
 
Judith Edwards is a child and adolescent psychotherapist. She  worked for over thirty years at the Tavistock Clinic in London. The Tavistock is the foremost institute for training and for the application of psychological therapies in the UK. Love the Wild Swan: The Selected Works of Judith Edwards was published by Routledge in their World Library of Mental Health series, and her edited book, Psychoanalysis and Other Matters: Where Are We Now? was also published by Routledge. From 1996 to 2000, she was joint editor of the Journal of Child Psychotherapy. Apart from her clinical experience, one of her principal interests is in the links between psychoanalysis, culture, and the arts, as well as making psychoanalytic ideas accessible to a wider audience. She has an international academic publishing record and in 2010 was awarded the Jan Lee memorial prize for the best paper linking psychoanalysis and the arts during that year: ‘Teaching & Learning about Psychoanalysis: Film as a teaching tool’.

Helen Garlick; (Video) In the Shadow of Secrets: Embracing Family Truths

In this conversation Helen Garlick discusses her book 'No Place to Lie' and the impact of family secrets. She shares her personal experience of discovering her brother's suicide and her mother's hidden sexuality after their deaths. The central themes of the book include family secrets, the power of communication, connection, and community, and the importance of love. Helen emphasizes the healing process and taking responsibility for our own healing. She also discusses the challenges of living with secrets and the impact they have on relationships and self-identity. Helen Garlick discusses the impact of family secrets and the power of writing to heal and transform.  Helen emphasizes the importance of talking about and sharing our stories to lift the shame and isolation associated with family secrets. She also discusses the therapeutic benefits of writing and the process of writing her memoir. Helen encourages others to write their own stories and offers writing retreats to help people explore and express their experiences. She concludes by recommending the healing power of nature and the importance of connecting with the wildness around us.
 
Helen Garlick is the author of ‘No Place to Lie’ about family secrets. Formerly a family lawyer, mediator and trainer, she is now continuing to working on her own writing including the power of owning your own story. She has run coastal writing retreats in North Devon and is a true believer in the healing power of blue whether the sea or other bodies of water. She is strongly in favour of busting the shame/silence around family secrets and has a youtube channel called Hello It’s Better to Talk.
She currently lives in Devon with her husband Tim Rice (not that one) and three dogs. Between them they have five adult children.
 
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